What is the Most Important Thing in Selecting the Marriage Partner?

Are You Focus and amplify the flaws of your marriage partner?

Have you ever tried to surprise your hubby in the bedroom, but he’s telling you not to interrupt him when playing a video game unless it passes him a beer or a snack?

Can you get used to his ridiculous habit of refusing to take a bath before going to bed?

Is he almost always addicted to the mobile, checking to see what his other friends are up to instead of listening to your words?

Everyone can love sunshine and happiness, but few will love chaos and decay. Never claim to love someone if you haven't seen anger, flaws, and contradictions. Can you accept the good, the bad, and the ugly of your husband?

Time is dynamic. Change is inevitable in terms of aging, status, or earning ability.  Have you ever felt tired in a relationship and marital tensions get bigger? You are pondering he is not the man he was on that day you tied the knot, and you no longer enjoy looking at his extra-pound belly.

1)     Recall the Romance when You First Met Him

What if you travel back to the past when you first met him? Recall yourself of what attracted him to you in the first place. Do you remember the day you started talking with each other? Setting up a romantic moment with him, have a candlelight dinner, and end with a kiss like the first time you met him. 

2)     Acceptance Of Who He is

Take the responsibility for the choice you have made.  Unless you’re in prison, you don’t have to do anything. You choose to do things.  And then, you realize that the reality is not as bad as you think, or as good as you expect.

Accept what clashes, clashes.

What flows, flows.

Never border yourself to urge the other person to do the right thing.

Similarly, never border your spouse approve who you are as well.

You observe his choices, understand his character, and decide what you accept in your life.

3)     Change Expectation to Appreciation

You might expect your husband to quit smoking, share household chores, be intelligent, have a good sense of humor, love your parents, and more. But what if you shifted your expectations to appreciation?

Instead, appreciate that he is often the first to apologize, even if he believes he hasn't done anything wrong. Recognize his hard work in supporting the family's well-being.

A man: What makes a good husband?

A woman: He loves you more than anything in the world. It doesn’t matter whether he is rich, intelligent, handsome, or in good shape or not.

People come and go in your life.

70% of them don’t care about you

25% of them gloating over your failure

Only the small 5% (or even less) care about you.

Don't waste your energy on the 95% of people who do not matter. If you love someone, invest more effort into understanding him, including his flaws and bad habits. Research shows that any addiction—whether it's to smoking, alcohol, pornography, or online gaming—often stems from an individual feeling unhappy due to disconnection in some area of their life, such as their career or relationships. People may turn to these addictions as a way to reconnect and fill that void.

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When a woman cares so much about how deeply her partner loves her, she may fall into two traps.

1)     Have you ever sought approval from your partner to desire he would count on you more?  It sounds paradoxical because this would make you small indeed.

2)     You are eager to change or fix his thinking, habits, and behavior. It happens your partner regards you as a control freak.

Have you fallen into these traps? Have you overcome the trap? How can you do that?